I have learned that everyone deals with death differently..
I do understand that death is never easy, no one is prepared in dealing with it. No matter how strong we though we are, we still feel the pain once it sink in. There is no special skills to deal with death and it’s always different. After losing my eldest brother in December 2016 and after several months I lost my mother in June 2017. How I felt when I lost two special family members, only few months apart was totally different from losing a friend, and losing a husband, the father of my children.
I have learned that Life is a Gift
With the quality of life that I had experience since I was a kid, all the struggles and hardship in order to finish my studies, failed marriage and being single parent with two kids. Despite of those destitute I have learned that life is a gift.
Life is an amazing gift. Most of the people nowadays don’t realize that each day is a gift due to their busy life. As Tony Robbins said, “Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”
In my own interpretation it can only be mean that whatever our situation, life itself gives you so many chances, thus, use that chances to do wonderful things in your life.
Life is an amazing gift. Most of the people nowadays don’t realize that each day is a gift due to their busy life. As Tony Robbins said, “Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”
In my own interpretation it can only be mean that whatever our situation, life itself gives you so many chances, thus, use that chances to do wonderful things in your life.
I have learned not to Rely My Own Happiness to Others
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” Stacey Charter
When you rely your happiness to any person or individual or even accomplishment you may realize that you are emotionally dependent. With our situation in life, wherein my mother is the sole responsible in providing our daily needs as my father died when I was seven years old. I have learned to overcome emotional dependency as I grew up. I’ve learned to stand on my own and feel more in control of my life.
What I have observed in some people I know, they allow others to control their happiness and in the end they’ll end up hurt. People don’t know that by letting other people decide their own happiness, they gave away the control of their lives. As an example is by allowing their partners to be in control over their feelings to the extent that a small argument can make them upset.
As an independent individual you should know to set things that you really want to do with your life and you should strive hard to get what you want. If you are focus in achieving what you want in life you will notice that small arguments will not bother you.
I have learned some ways to take control of my own happiness such as:
When you rely your happiness to any person or individual or even accomplishment you may realize that you are emotionally dependent. With our situation in life, wherein my mother is the sole responsible in providing our daily needs as my father died when I was seven years old. I have learned to overcome emotional dependency as I grew up. I’ve learned to stand on my own and feel more in control of my life.
What I have observed in some people I know, they allow others to control their happiness and in the end they’ll end up hurt. People don’t know that by letting other people decide their own happiness, they gave away the control of their lives. As an example is by allowing their partners to be in control over their feelings to the extent that a small argument can make them upset.
As an independent individual you should know to set things that you really want to do with your life and you should strive hard to get what you want. If you are focus in achieving what you want in life you will notice that small arguments will not bother you.
I have learned some ways to take control of my own happiness such as:
- It is my responsibility to look after myself. I believe that no matter how good other people makes you feel, it is much better to set limitations and be emotional independent instead of relying on them.
- Be an emotional beggar. By being an “emotional beggar”, you cannot demand any help from other people because they don’t owe you anything. You have to accept that your needs is not the responsibility of other people. By doing this, you will avoid the emotional dependency which often leads to relying your happiness to other people.